Do you take responsibility over your life?

Are you someone who looks for solutions in life’s myriad of circumstances or do you seek to put the blame on someone else so you don’t have to deal with the problem?  There is a terrible trend in the world today where people believe that they can continually push back the problems or burdens they face and hope they will soon disappear.  In truth, that doesn’t happen.  It seems to me that time is on the side of the problem and if not faced it only gets larger.  I, therefore, believe it is more prudent to face the issue, look for alternatives of choice and put a plan in place that will help alleviate or at least minimize the issue until a better solution arises. 

When I was helping Betty stay healthy and vibrant, I took responsibility for her wellbeing for that time being because I cared.  Her daughter continually placed the blame on Betty, the 98 year old lady who at this stage of her life was not capable of making sound choices.  The daughter was trapped in her own sense of lack, anger and frustration and because she lived in another State, she accepted the motto: “Out of sight is out of mind.” 

There is a paralyzing game going on in the world today—the blame game and the pity party game.  It is true, sometimes things happen that are out of our control, but too often it is how we respond to the situation that defines us

Isn’t it time for us to start looking for those stepping stones of life that will allow us to reach the other shore instead of faltering over the stumbling blocks of life?  To find the right stepping stones that will allow us to stay on solid ground, we need to become more disciplined and determined knowing that a solution is at hand.  Make choices that are surrounded in empowering responses and attitudes; be willing to learn and grow from our poor choices as we strengthen our character and stand tall knowing once we determine where we want to place our values, only then will we be able to appreciate the lost art of responsibility.

• If you have made a poor choice, look for ways to correct it and seek to grow through your error.

• If we have been indifferent toward your responsibilities and options, look for ways to become more focused and concerned.

• If we have been lazy about how you want to see your live play out, begin to strengthen your resolve and boast up your energy so that you can now become part of the solution—not the burden. 

When we don’t want to take responsibility for situations in our lives and we make poor decisions, we actually surrender control over our lives and their outcomes.  Too often we suffer because we make poor choices and then the folly perpetuates until we are ridden with misery.

The process is sometimes long and arduous but the end result can be very rewarding. 

"Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses."

George Washington Carver

"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility."

Sigmund Freud

Joan Marie Ambrose

Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker