Are you falling short of your goals?

Willpower and a pattern shift will help you get closer to achieving your goals.  By willpower I mean, being willing to harness self-control over your life and those situations that we all encounter daily.  Sometimes it is easy to exhibit self-control but too often it is very difficult because the pull towards those experiences that really don’t benefit us is strong.  After all, no one wants to deny themselves the base desires that seem to be so appealing. 

When you consciously have the strength to refrain from overeating or you refuse to participate in harmful gossip or name calling, you are showing restraint and willpower.  When you are aware of temptations that might give you instant gratification but long-term heartbreak, you are exhibiting willpower and self control. 

I actually have found that when I face the temptation and consciously refrain from following its call, I feel free.  It is like I just won the battle with my ego mind and my higher self came out ahead.  Yes, it takes discipline and a conscious awareness that allows me to make a sound choose that will lead me to greater joy.  Now mind you, I don’t always succeed; I admit that I often give in to my lower base desires.  However, I work diligently at rebounding and finding a better way to improve and succeed by putting in front of me, things, people or situations that will strengthen my resolve.  In other words, remove from your focal point unnecessary temptations, unwanted stressful situations and even unrealistic goals that will only set you up to fall. 

When I am struggling to push through a challenge, I find that talking to myself is very helpful.  I have a dialogue with my mind.  I start asking questions, looking for the root cause of my block and ways that I can strengthen my self-control that will set me up for success.  I encourage you to try new approaches towards strengthening your willpower.  If fear is holding you back, speak to the fear and find out why you experience those emotions.  You will always get an answer. 

Our minds and spirits are intelligent and will respond when pushed to the wall.  You will find that with time, you will get better with your inward conversations and eventually your gut feelings and/or intuition will be communicating in a stronger and clearer manner.  When we truly understand what is holding us back, we are better able to overcome our fears, anxiety and blocks. 

Once you see or feel a breakthrough in the right direction, continue to be persistent.  Don’t get lazy and think you can slide a little because you will too quickly discover that that kind of attitude will cause you to slip and slide backward.  If you really have a target that you want to reach, you will need to stay the course, discipline yourself, remain persistent and keep your eye on the end game. 

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will."

Mahatma Gandhi

“In the absence of willpower the most complete collection of virtues and talents is wholly worthless.”

Aleister Crowley

  

Joan Marie Ambrose

Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker