Too many of
us are disconnecting with others in our lives because we lack the ability to
communicate effectively. Communication is an art and when it is utilized
properly, all parties are benefiting but the converse is also true, when we
fail to get our message across, frustration and often anger result. I know I have spoken about this topic
before and I must admit I do not have all the answers to resolve this dilemma
but I can honestly say that I am a work in progress so I do have something to
offer. I invite you to listen up
and take heed. I am continually
paying attention to how others communicate and get their point across and I
must admit I am impressed. Take
some notes, pay attention and listen to this advice because I believe that some
of this information is valuable and could even possibly help you to become a
sought after person within your sphere of influence. Your age, your background and even your educational
accomplishments have nothing to do with your willingness and your ability to become an effective and confident communicator.
To start I
want to give you some tips that I know will benefit you and even possibly help
you blossom in new and different ways. I believe you need to:
1. Look people in the eye when
you or they are speaking. When someone is speaking to you and
engaging in a conversation, they are pleased to know that you find their
conversation worthy of your attention.
I find it rude to have roving eye when I am speaking to someone. It means—I am not interested in what
you have to say. UGH!
2. Make your conversation interesting.
If your conversation is self-centered and boring, no one is going to
want to listen to you. Be
creative—stay on topic and become a fun conversationalist. Laugh a lot and stay light and entertaining.
3. Be a good listener.
Respect how other people feel—get an understanding of their point of
view and attitude for a particular subject. You will soon discover that by listening you will receive
the perfect clues for you to either back down and simple listen and observe or
become a participant in the exchange.
Please wait until the other person is finished speaking before you
interrupt. You will be doing
yourself a big favor by being respective of others point of view.
4. Tell a joke that will lighten up the
conversation. I for one am terrible at telling a joke
but I must admit that I admire those who have the artistic ability to
communicate in that manner. So, I
encourage you to try—I know it will benefit you tremendously. I have been the observer of those who
have been engaging in that manner and it is captivating.
5. Be aware of the other persons body
language. If you are not holding their attention,
get energized – maybe you need to change the subject. You know, the small gestures are most revealing and will
most definitely help you determine the effectiveness of your message.
6. This is not a competition.
Do not try to win the conversation – I encourage you to allow the other
person to get the last word. If
you disagree—stay quiet and just move on.
It is perfectly okay to let the other person express their thoughts and
end the conversation.
Good
communication is a skill—an artful skill that needs to be cultivated. I hope that this message will help.
Joan Marie
Ambrose
Author,
Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker
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