How do you deal with emptiness?

A feeling of emptiness is often experienced when we are down and feeling a lack of self-worth and accomplishment.  These feelings are not to be confused with putting yourself in a spiritual state of emptiness as you connect with your Higher Source.  That state is actually one of inner peace and bliss.  The significance of feeling empty inside is often connected with a sense of lack of purpose or meaning in ones life.  If you are having those feelings, then maybe it is time for you to step back and review your life and even write down all your achievements and accomplishments.  Without a doubt, we tend to forget all the things that have brought meaning and importance to our lives. 

Emptiness is often felt when you are seeking a change in your live and it doesn’t materialize fast enough or you are feeling emotionally challenged and at a loss yet this feeling does not have to be debilitating.  This actually could be a time of further exploration and growth especially when you are open to seek and search out new opportunities and ideas.  I have heard many people express those thoughts when their work is unsatisfying, they are not receiving the pay or income that they feel they deserve or their partner or employer doesn’t recognize their efforts and achievements. 

When we feel unloved for any reason, we feel empty.  Feeling fulfilled comes from feeling loved, accepted and worthy.  We all seek love from others but the greatest love that you can have is the love of self.  That is also why I suggest that you write down all the achievements, the joys and the delights that you have experienced in your life. 

Examine and go back into your memory bank and pull up all the times that you have felt joy and delight.  Think about the times when you laughed and caused others to laugh.  Look to the ways that you can perpetuate love and self-respect to you on a daily basis.  You cannot have a full life unless you are willing to fill the hole or void that you are currently experiencing. 

Each one of us needs to understand and cultivate within our core a sense of self-worth and self-love.  We can have that sense of self-worth and self-love further enhanced by our connection and interaction with others but the initial fruits of that joy must be activated and cultivated by self.  Maybe the first question to ask yourself is:  “ Do I like what I have become—Am I pleased with my physical appearance—Do I feel emotionally stable—Is my outlook on life positive or do I surround myself with negative people who influence my behavior and attitude? 

·      If you are continually surrounding yourself with the wrong environment, you are not loving or respecting yourself.

·      If you are continually eating the wrong foods that are depleting your energy, you are not loving or respecting yourself.

·      If you are continually trying to get others’ attention and approval by your behavior of excessive gossip, over-exaggerating your story-telling or with being overly nice and complimentary, you are not loving or respecting yourself because you are not feeling full yourself. 

Don’t allow your ego mind to play tricks on you and cause you to believe that you are not good enough and even unfulfilled.  Remember to ask yourself the question:  “Who is running my life?”  Your authentic self sees you as whole and complete, your ego mind sees you as wounded and inadequate.  I encourage you not to give into those lower based thoughts because they will only make you feel unlovable and not good enough. When you are down and in need of encouragement—seek wisdom—seek God and ask your Angel friends to stand by your side and give you the support and love that you need to fill your void.  It really does help fill your inner emptiness. 

 Joan Marie Ambrose

Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker