I
am tired of looking for true love. Every time I think I have found the
"right one" for me, something happens and we fall apart. Will I ever
find true love? ß
Is this you? If I had a dime for each
time someone said that, I would be a multimillionaire. The hard truth is that
if you are "looking" for true love, you will never find it. True love
is not something you seek out - it seeks
you. I am sure, too, you have heard that response once or twice along the
way. But it is the reality of how life and love works. There is no "set
time" for you to have love in your life. In fact, it is often when you
least expect it, that love will find you.
I am tired of always
hearing that love will find me. It has not worked yet, how do you expect it to
work at a later time? If you are asking that question, therein lies the
problem. You must trust yourself and have confidence so that others may see
that quality in you as well. No, you may not "find" love this
afternoon, tomorrow, next week or maybe not even next month -- and that is
okay. First you must build up your level of self-confidence. You also have to
start seeing your own potentialities in life. Stop thinking you will never
"have someone" in your life. Stop saying that you can never find the right
one "for me". When you do meet a special someone, you must realize
that just like you are not particularly "for him" (or for her), s/he
may not be made "for you". In
actuality, no individual is made "for" someone. Each of you is created
in your own uniqueness. You must
honor yourself, respect yourself, be confident, and trust your gut feelings.
True love is built on
those abovementioned qualities. When the Universe is ready to offer you an
opportunity at love - true love - your gut will know it is the real deal. You
may go through a number of relationships so you can grow into the person you
need to be. You are not experiencing breakups because God is punishing you; nor
is it because you are not good enough. Quite the contrary - in order to have and
maintain a long-lasting, true love relationship, you must practice for the main
event. You learn to truly appreciate and respect others when you have learned
how to trust and give trust in return.
The quest is over, my friend.
True love is not going to be found on a plane ride, boat ride, bus ride or
train ride. You must only learn to be aware of those signals the universe is
giving you. Sometimes those signals are subtle - like a friendly smile, a wave,
a conversation, or something so unlikely that you would never have thought
twice about it. The hard truth is that "true love" is often closer
than you may realize. No, you will not "find" it in your mailbox;
even less likely to find it in your refrigerator. (I know ice cream sounds too
good to turn down when stressed.) Because you are so caught up in the game of
cat and mouse - wondering if you will ever catch the love of your life, you
stop seeing the obvious right in front in you. Stop chasing your own tail and
start opening your eyes to the possibilities around you. True love may be
closer than you think, and not so far away at all.
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