At some point in all of our
lives, we have felt rejected.
Rejection hurts no matter how old you are; however, it is how you deal
with it that really matters.
I have seen the many shades of rejection in my life and the lives of
those that I love and while it is a difficult emotion to swallow, when we learn
to breath deeply and go within our soul to analyze the situation, we often
receive the right answer and see the correct picture that helps us better
understand the reasoning behind the situation.
Men and woman have been
dumped because they no longer look or act young, Children have been rejected
because they were not good enough for the sport or role and in the job market,
people are being passed over because they didn’t meet the right criteria. Let’s face it, the person being reject
is not thought worthy enough so their self-esteem is threatened and their level
of confidence is weakened.
There have been numerous
studies on this topic because people have resorted to many different get
even tactics to find resolve yet I
believe that the most effective way to deal with rejection is through one’s
ability to turn the other cheek.
You must make a conscious effort to change your point of view and move
onward and upward if you want to heal. How do you accomplish that, you might ask?
First, do not hid from the rejection—acknowledge and accept
the facts and try to look at the bigger picture. Possibly there is a valuable lesson to be learned – one that
can alter your behavior and reap you greater results.
Second, do not harbor anger or resentment. Instead, forgive and move on because
the only one who suffers because of unforgiveness is you. Remember that in order to feel and be
free you must let go of the darkness of unforgiveness. You have more important things to do
with your energy so why not use it to help you grow and succeed?
Third, build a support team. There is no shame in asking for guidance and help. It is truly a wise man/woman who
understands the power behind building a solid foundation. Your support team can lighten your
load.
Fourth, Create an environment around you that nurtures and
enriches your life. If you have
negative people in your life that continually gossip, judge or manipulate
consider changing your environment to change your life. Surround your self with like-minded
people who are up beat and positive in nature.
Fifth, Learn to trust again in a loving and compassionate
manner. When you get hurt, it is
often difficult to trust others.
Please do not close off your heart. Learn to become an observers of others behavior and use
sound judgment when choosing friends and acquaintances. Actions always speak louder than
words.
And Finally, be conscious and alert. Don’t keep replaying your old story. You are not a victim so do not fall
into that trap. You have all the
power within you to shift gears and change your life so it can reflect what you
want to achieve. Too often I have seen people stuck in their anger and
resentment – that behavior can only lead to more pain and dis-ease within the
mind, body and spirit.
That behavior is
self-destruction and can only result in hardship. Your positive attitude, behavior and environment are what
will determine your outcome.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once
said, "Don't waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but
chant the beauty of the good. Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could."
We all know that reject can
be painful but never forget that you get to choose each day how you will allow
it to affect your life. Do you
want it to strengthen and empower you or drag you down? You get to decide!
Joan Marie Ambrose
Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker
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