Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Victims are created not born


Those who feel like victims in this life are usually those who have been living with an identity crisis.  There ability to express themselves clearly has been squelched very often by a parent or teacher who themselves have an identity problem and manifest there feelings of lack on those who are weak and insecure.  Ones personal identity or self-realization is vital and a necessary ingredient for feeling loved, validated and confident. 

Each one of us want to feel a part of those ingredients and we absolutely need to integrate them into our daily living experience or else we are too often feeling victimized, inadequate and often vulnerable to radical teachings that prey on our sensitivity and sense of rejection.  Please do not be mistaken, there is a continual battle going on in the world between good and evil.  The evil is always seeking to befriend and attach its thinking on those whose ego is deflated and vulnerable.  Unfortunately the good is naïve to the workings of the evil and as a result fails to see the warning signs. 

An important question to ask yourself is:  “ What can I do to nurture myself and those in my sphere of influence so that we, individually and collectively will not fall prey to evil and satanic behavior?”  While there is no simple answer, I personally do believe that there are many shifts in behavior that will be helpful to the youth of the world today; such as,

1.  Be more attentive to the needs of your children or the children of your friends.  Children are ripe for learning.  They are very aware of what is going on in their world.  Anger, resentment, greed and lack of genuine love are negative emotions that children see and learn early on in their development years.  Some parents are extremely strict and abusive to their children.  They set rules and restrictions that are controlling and manipulative thus preventing the child to grow and breath in a nurturing environment.  Power play games and suppressive behavior by a teacher or parent can and often will cause destruction to a weaker personality.  It leaves room for negative and evil forces to infiltrate and gain a strong hold on that child or individual who is seeking attention and rescue. 

2.  Leave breathing room for the child to express its opinion without ridicule or disciplinary responses.  We all need a safe haven to feel comfortable in and if we do not receive it at home we will look elsewhere for it.  Since a very young age I have always said and believed that I am entitled to my opinion as long as I express it in a clear and non-threatening way—others may not agree with me but that is okay.  That is part of our freedom of self-expression. 

3.  Be open to conversation—expressing it with a meaningful and friendly attitude could be a teachable moment.  If you are living your life with resentment, fear and anger, that is what you are teaching.  An angry child wants to express those feelings back to you so that you will get a taste of some of the same medicine that you are dishing out. 

4.  Children live in a fantasy world and it is our job and mission to help them create a fantasy that is healthy and nurturing so that there reality will be more of the same. 

Compassion, sharing and caring are key for the success and growth of a healthy child and adult.  We all seek it and we all crave it yet too often we refuse to be it because we are caught up in our own ego-centered world.  If we want to create a better world to live in where people can commingle openly feeling safe and protected from evil, we must be the change that we want to see in the world. 

Do not forget that there is a battle of good and evil going on and between the worlds.  Every time we show compassion and we exhibit concern and love towards another, we weaken the forces of the enemy. The enemy cannot thrive or survive in that environment.  Don’t you think it is time for all of us to come together and reject the ideology of evil, hatred and/or our need to get even?  I certainly do!

Joan Marie Ambrose
Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker

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