Most of us
think that we share our thoughts and feelings adequately in order to get our
message out but I would like to challenge you on this topic and as I share I
hope you will be honest with yourself and then decide what is true for
you.
In the long
run you are the only one who matters and what you believe will determine the
way you perform. But I would like
to remind you that if your life is not working the way you had hoped or people
are not understanding what you are trying to say, quite possibly you are ready
to learn something from this message that just might be of benefit to you.
The ability
to communicate your messages and your feelings is an art that most people fail at
big time. Many people do not place sufficient value on this skill but I would
like to remind you that one’s ability to share his/her thoughts and feelings
properly is the cornerstone that all relationships must be built upon if we
want those encounters to be lasting and fulfilling. Communication is defined as a process or means to
reveal either verbal or nonverbal messages in a clear and meaningful way and
without malice.
I realize
that in today’s world there are many forms or ways to share your message, like
through the internet, texting or the telephone as well as through the various
social media sites but I must say that there is no substitution for face to
face communication because it is a personal expression of your feelings to the
one person who at that moment in time is waiting for an honest and genuine
dialogue. It is only
through that eyeball-to-eyeball connection that a true and sincere expression
can be felt and shared between two human beings.
Whether you
are in a one to one setting or in a group, your ability to express your
reasoning is paramount. This is
your opportunity to get your point across and to transmit your message so that
others who are listening can and will receive it with clarity and hopefully a
beneficial outcome for all.
Outcome based thinking or conscious thinking is an important approach to
problem solving and/or negotiation; and let’s face it, when we have something
of value to say, it usually requires one or both of those approaches in order
to arrive at your end goal.
One of the first
keys or steps to
effective communication is knowing what it is that you want to share or
impart. If you lack a purpose or
meaning behind your communicating, you most likely are exchanging small talk,
which tends to be empty and shallow.
If however, you are hoping to participate in a significant conversation
that expresses meaningful content, you will want to develop effective
communication skills that will empower you and your life experience.
If you want
to cultivate a happy and healthy relationship with someone, whether it is a
business relationship or a personal relationship another important step to remember is determining what the
other person values—in other words, what is important to them and why. For example, if you value integrity and
health related topics as two traits at the top of your list and the other
person’s values focus around fun and success, you may discover that you are
coming from two completely different value charts and your differences could
greatly affect your relationship and motivation.
Your ability
to communicate what is important to you and what you value is key when
developing a strong and fruitful relationship. But thirdly, do not forget that acknowledging the other person and either
agreeing or expressing a counter opinion helps bring the cycle of communication
to a close without feeling conflicted.
Many people end their conversations by saying good-bye but if you are
not planning to end the connection, a simple closure to that one topic is
sufficient. Then you can open the
door to a new topic and build on your communicating skills in an interesting
and creative way. A good
communicator is a good listener. Don’t let your
eye wander—pay attention to whoever is speaking and make them feel special. If you show others that respect, they
will return it in kind.
Joan Marie Ambrose
Author, Creative Writer,
Motivational Speaker
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