I think
possibly a better question to ask is : “Where do you place your trust?”
Is it in your fellow man, in your government or is it in the power and
hand of God, your Creator? We have
heard the words before: “Nothing is impossible to those who believe.” In order to survive in this world, we
need to believe in something and we need to trust that what we believe in will
come to pass. For it is true—no
relationship can survive, thrive or grow and mature if it is not built on
trust.
I just
recently have encountered a young family who is having a difficult time with
their son who is 15 years old.
This young man has lost faith in his future and is continually
challenging the authority of his father, so much so, that he has chosen to give
up and withdraw from life. This
choice of his didn’t happen over night—it has been brewing for many years. Since he has been a very young child
his father has verbally put him down which is abuse. He has been strongly disciplined to the point that he has
been forced to yield and/or crack to the demands and control of his
father. Now that he is at the
vulnerable age of being challenged as a young man, he is once again being told
that his way is the wrong way and if he doesn’t change, he will be deprived of
all that brings him joy.
The young man
has lost faith, he no longer believes in new possibilities for his present
moment and even if he is short sighted in his reasoning, he has lost [what he
feels] is a safe-haven for trust.
His spirit is gradually being destroyed and all in the name of discipline.
Where do we
place our hope and trust and how do we believe in new possibilities if we are
continually being controlled—manipulated and even misguided? When the going gets tough, we need to
toughen up and keep going!
We would all
like to place our trust in our parents and/or family but sometimes in life that
avenue becomes the wrong source.
I, personally have learned in my life that if I wanted to become happy,
successful and at peace within my world, I needed to place my trust in me as I
call on guidance from above. I went from feeling defeated and miserable to
declaring: “No one can hurt me or
get me down if I am not willing to play their game. I made a conscious choice to make my weapon of choice my
strong sense of determination, persistence and sharp focus. Your true sense of security and trust
resides within your heart and soul.
No one can destroy that but you.
You certainly cannot predict the many twists and turns in life but you
absolutely have the power [willpower ] to turn your life around if you are
ready to believe in your potentiality.
The story
that I just shared with you can have a positive and uplifting ending if this
young man decides to re-think where he is placing his anger and start looking
at and moving towards placing his faith and trust in God. I must admit that at times in all of
our lives, we move into the anger and resentful zone and say: I am going to get even with you.” But that approach never leads to
genuine fulfillment---only more resentment and anger.
It would be
far greater to turn the other cheek so to speak lick your wounds and move
onward and upward. Life is
definitely too short to play the control game. Even if our parents don’t get it, that doesn’t have to mean
that the youth can’t lead the way, be a good example and show them up by
getting on with their life. There is always a solution to every problem and
placing your focus on getting even is not one of them. Become a believer in new possibilities
and make a difference in your life by placing your trust in God. No one wants to be controlled or even
dictated to—there definitely is a better approach to creating a win/win
solution for all involved if and when the space is opened for new fresh possibilities
to emerge. Remember, nothing is
impossible for those who believe in the power of God. I for one can say with honesty and sincerity—I am a
believer.
Joan Marie Ambrose
Author,
Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker
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