The client cancelled and
you were counting on that money!
Your friend forgot about the lunch appointment with you and you feel
rejected and hurt. Emotional
stress is a demon that lurks in the shadows of our mind and our lives and that
is why I have gained all that weight—I needed to indulge in that chocolate bar
to ease my pain and frustration or maybe it is a glass of wine that I
need. Have you ever had those
thoughts? Does disappointment and
stress trigger addiction to some behavior that you think will ease the pain or
distress?
Sometimes it is our
unrealistic goals that have caused us to fall into that trap of feeling overly
stressed. I have found that my
unmet expectations set me off and make me anxious. I expect too much and I want things to materialize too
quickly—I have actually set myself up for failure and didn’t even realize it.
Have you ever felt that way? I have been in that place on numerous
occasions. Something doesn’t go
the way I had hoped and I get anxious and frustrated and that is when I think—‘Chocolate’ I need some chocolate to calm the nerves. But after I have had my fix I realize
that it didn’t satisfy my nerves or my state of mind. The chocolate didn’t give me the satisfaction that I was
looking for to quiet my emotions.
At that moment I was feeling a sense of disconnect and uneasiness. My
mind and my craving for the chocolate was simply a distraction. It tricked me into thinking that my
addictive behavior would make me feel better and I was wrong. It was my
emotional stress that drove me to seek solace in the wrong place like food or
drink.
I soon realized that when
my life isn’t going the way I expected, I need to breath in slowly from my
belly and try to relax my energy field. I do this at least 3-5 times till I
feel calm and composed. Breathing
exercises can help you relax and reduce anxiety in your body. How you might
ask? Try it some time and take note
as to how your body responds when you breathe deeply from your belly,
repetitively and consciously. This
approach actually sends a message to the brain that says: “calm down and
relax.” We all experience some degree of stress but please know that
when you actually make a conscious effort to breathe in deeply and release a
stressful situation or event or even try to zone out and put yourself into a
pleasant scene or scenario, you are releasing the stress level that binds. It is all about lowering the stress in
your body and that fact has more broad benefits them you realize like, lower
blood pressure. At the same time
you are also experiencing a calmer heart rate as you come closer towards a
state of balance.
Once I realized that my
addictive behavior had no benefits, I understood that I needed to learn some
valuable tips that would help me change my behavior and adapt to all my
stressful situations in a simple and fruitful way. I also realized that I needed to adjust my behavior and
attitude so that I will always be more prepared to live and work in a manner
that doesn’t stress me out to the point that I am unable to control
myself. Here are some of my
thoughts on this subject that might also help you. When you feel severe stress
taking you out:
1. do something that will distract you and
calm your nerves like exercise, take a walk in nature or simply take a soothing
bath.
2. Place yourself in a peaceful
environment that relaxes your energy and sets you free.
3. The practice of Tai Chi and Qi
Gong are calming and meditative
exercises that slow down the metabolism and change your psychology. They are beautiful and transformational
because they work with the life energy that gently flows in and around you.
4. Educate yourself and
become dedicated to your self-preservation. You need that for your personal well-being.
We all need help and a
support team to encourage us, so please do not feel embarrassed or become
paralyzed. We have the power
within to change and heal but the process starts with a commitment to adapt and
adjust your attitude as you begin to invest in an improved healthy
outlook.
Joan Marie
Ambrose
Author,
Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker
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