Don't give your power away

That is why I say: “Don’t give your power away!”  Do you realize that when you dwell on negative words, statement or people who have gotten you upset or angry, you are expending energy that could be better used to build you up and help you live a better and healthier life?

Situations continually arise that will test us and our values and principles but one thing to remember is:  Stay calm, act with discernment and be cautious with the way you respond.  It is perfectly okay to get annoyed or angry due to someone’s lack of integrity or unprofessional behavior but it will only harm your state of mind and your overall well-being if you dwell on it and allow it to alter your behavior and good basic common sense.

A very valuable and important point to remember: nothing or no one can offend you without your permission.  Repeat those words often and allow them to sink into your overall state of mind before you give your response.  Don’t give someone else the power to manipulate your emotional or mental state.  If you get stressed out, anxious or upset about what someone said about you, you will deplete your energy and have nothing left to protect your immune system so you can stay healthy. 

Don’t let anyone get the best of you, you can instead, take a deep breathe in – stay calm and say: ‘The battle is the Lords and the Victory is mine.’  In other words, trust God to find the solution, believe that you will find the right answer and the best way to deal. Don’t make it harder on yourself by getting upset and loading yourself down with negativity. 

Guard your heart—be selective on where you are placing your attention and your energy and don’t give your power over to someone else or something else that only wants to trip you up and set obstacles in your way. There may be some people who do not like you or what you stand for, or they may be envious of you and your success but do not let that get in the way of how you live your life.  Be wise—be prudent—be protective of your energy and refuse to allow negativity to control you, your thoughts, your behavior and/or your response. 

The real question to ask yourself is:  “Can you manage with turning the other cheek and refuse to cave into your negative adversaries?”  Ignore the insults, the inequities and those who lack the right principles and values that you hold true. 

You cannot enjoy your life dwelling on your problems, there are a lot of things that we cannot change so do give permission to evil-minded people to dictate your life and the way you think and behave.  Don’t let worry or hurtful people or situations get the best of you—instead ask God to help you work it out, help you find the solution and help you stay in a peaceful state of mind.  No matter what happens to you or around you, maintain a good healthy attitude.  It is important to protect your energy and refuse to give your power away regardless of what is happening around you. Don’t allow others to upset you.  Be vigilant and guard your heart; stop giving up and giving in to being upset so that you begin to dwell on negative things.  Become creative with your thoughts and your actions and stay in a state of joy and contentment knowing that you are in the power seat—you are not allowing the negative situations and people to penetrate your heart, mind or spirit.  And say often: ‘The battle is the Lords and the Victory is mine.’ 

Joan Marie Ambrose -- Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker